The language of leadership

Think about the people you know - or have known - in your personal and professional life that you would consider leaders.

Go beyond those individuals who are leaders merely by way of title, such as people who have supervised you during the work day. Think more about people whose leadership is less dramatic, but just as powerful.

What are the two common elements which define these kinds of leaders? Actions and words.

Actions are easy to spot. These types of leaders are the first people to volunteer when someone needs help with a project. The first to showcase the work of others at the expense of their own advancement. The first to take the blame, and to seek to right a wrong.

The words, however, are a little less obvious.

In a recent survey, managers identified the types of statements and questions that separate true leaders from those that simply get by. (The survey was focused on how to help young professionals build a solid brand, but the lessons are universal.) These expressions are simple words you hear everyday, as Groucho Marx used to say on his television show. But they are nonetheless powerful indicators of what's inside the speaker.

So, whether you are reaching for the next rung on the corporate ladder or mentoring someone who is, here are some leadership words to live by:

1. What are my work hours? - You can't get ahead, if you don't show up.

2. Can you help me? - The shame isn't in asking for help; it's in NOT asking when you really need it.

3. How can I help you? - Helping others builds your brand, while it stretches your mind.

4. I don't know, but I'll find out - Saying you don't know is the easy part.

5. So and so did a great job, had a great idea, etc. - When you push people into the spotlight, the honoree isn't the only one who notices your generosity.

6. That's none of my business - Leaders don't start gossip: they stop it.

7. I have an idea; is this a good time to share it? - How many good ideas have died because they were presented in the wrong way, at the wrong time, in the wrong place, to the wrong people?

8. I made a mistake - As long as you don't make a habit of erring, fessing up when you screw up is a powerful demonstration of your self-confidence.

9. I'll be responsible for that - Note the difference between this statement and, "I'll do that." Leaders take responsibility.

10. Let me update you on my progress - The general corporate blood pressure stays in control when everyone makes short, regular updates a part of their routine.

Rocket science? Hardly. But take a moment and listen carefully to those you consider to be leaders. Chances are good that you'll hear these - or similar - simple statements of service and of leadership.